The Two Marriages
By Network Minister
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Now that you have found the truth and discovered that Yahwehs Commandments and Statutes are a Spiritual Marriage Contract, you are probably wondering how to handle a husband who has no interest in your new found religion.
1 Corinthians 7:10-17 (Speaking to True Believers Only)
10 And unto the married (equally yoked) I command, yet not I, but the Lord (from a Righteous Mind set), Let not the (believing) wife depart from her (believing) husband:
11 But and if she depart (a separation), let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her (believing) husband: and let not the (believing) husband put away his (believing) wife.
12 But to the rest (unequally yoked) speak I (from a Righteous Mind set), not the Lord: If any (believing) brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13 And the (believing) woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the (believing) wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the (believing) husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
Note: The word "Sanctified is #G37 (hagiazo) meaning "To purify mentally, as to venerate, revere, respect or love." "Sanctified" does not carry with it the inclusion of the unbeliever into or as part of "The True Believer's" "Promise of Salvation."
Note: And "be Pleased to dwell" carries with it the understanding, that the unbeliever(s) has (have) no conflict with our Keeping Yahweh's Commandments, even though it means that they cannot observe any pagan traditions. We do not make them observe Yahweh's traditions and Commandments, but they must understand that we cannot allow any pagan rituals or traditions or beliefs in our and our children's lives.
15 But if the unbelieving depart (of their own free will), let him (or her) depart. A (believing) brother or a (believing) sister is not under bondage (no longer bound by a vow of marriage) in such cases: but Elohim (Yahweh) hath called us to peace.
16 For what knowest thou, O (believing) wife, whether thou shalt save (guide unto Salvation) thy (unbelieving) husband? or how knowest thou, O (believing) man, whether thou shalt save thy (unbelieving) wife?
17 But as Elohim hath distributed to every (believing) man (or woman), as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all congregations.
The above verses are showing us that a woman (or man) is performing an "Act of Righteousness" by staying with her (or his) spouse after coming to the truth (after a marriage), and not only is Yahweh looking at this in a pleasing way, but by our staying with an unbelieving husband (or wife), who respects our Faith above their own, a believing wife is sanctifying (bringing Spiritual Respect upon) him (or her), as well as, any children the couple may have. Thus, the unbelieving (but Spiritually Respectful) spouse and children will be considered Spiritually Clean or Pure (sanctified), because of the Believing Wife's (or Believing Husbands) obedience to their own personal Marriage Vows of Obedience and Love to Yahweh and HIS Commandments.
Note: When an unbelieving spouse truly respects a true believers personal Spiritual Marriage Vows ( of Obedience), to Yahweh's Commandments, then Yahweh will respect them too. Eventually, the unbelieving may actually become believing, and then gain Yahweh's "Favor (Grace)" as well. However, a True believer must never put the physical spouse or marriage above their Spiritual Marriage to Yahweh.
31 It hath been said (See Deuteronomy 24:1-4 below), Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:
32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving (except) for the cause of fornication (Spiritual uncleanness), causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced (from man or YHWH) committeth adultery.
Note: These commandments must be separated into two groups.
(1) Marriages that originally occurred between two true (heterosexual) believers, . . . and
(2) Marriages that originally occurred between (heterosexual) couples where at least one partner (or both) was (were) an unbeliever.
If one unbeliever becomes a True Believer, then the other must, also, become a true believer OR at the very least not do anything that could cause a True Believer to stumble.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Marriage Law for physical Israel)
When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favor in his eyes, because he hath found some (legal) uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.
2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another mans wife.
3 And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; OR if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife;
4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.
There are two kinds of fornication. The first is obvious, that is, an physically unfaithful spouse. The second is SPIRITUAL fornication, which is a spouse that insists on practicing pagan rituals and idolatry. BOTH are considered fornication, and fall under the only grounds for divorce. As a believer, man or woman, you are a representative of YHWH, an extension of HIS proxy. If a spouse betrays you by comitting spiritual fornication (If they are knowingly comitting ANY acts of fornication; physical or Spiritual), they are, also, betraying YHWH, and you are no longer obligated to remain married to them; because they (he or she) are not "Pleased To Dwell With You" as if being equally yoked. However, IF they truly repent of their fornications, you are obligated to stay together (This must be a true repentance of "SELF"). You may even take them back, provided they have never remarried and you are, also, free to remarry. Now that you are in YHWH's family, you are under HIS rules.
2 Corinthians 6:14-18
14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?
15 And what concord hath Messiah with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
16 And what agreement hath the temple of Yahweh with idols? for ye are the temple of the living Elohim; as Elohim (Yahweh) hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their Eternal Father, and they shall be my people.
17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean (unsanctified) thing; and I will receive you,
18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.
This passage is talking about "Relationships", and relationships can be a form of "Fellowship" or "Marriage." And while a True Believer can separate himself or herself from tainted fellowship (i.e. by not attending false church groups, prayer meetings, etc.), we should not depart from an unbelieving husband (or wife), as long as they have True Respect for our Spiritual Marriage to (Faith in) Yahweh, which, I might emphasize, means not observing pagan traditions or rituals. We cannot have a True Marriage or Relationship with an unbeliever, who insists that we respect his or her pagan rituals and traditions. No compromises allowed! When an unbeliever insists on our respect of idolatry, then they no longer (or never did) have any Spiritually acceptable respect for Yahweh, and Yahweh will not have respect for them. Thus, the unbeliever is "not pleased to dwell with us," and they are not (or no longer) "Sanctified." This concept falls directly inline with the understanding of "Hot, Cold, or Lukewarm" in Revelations 3:16 .
Note: Whenever, there is a situation where a person (male or female) is unequally yoked to another, and that unbeliever is not Pleased (unlike the situation where RUTH was pleased with BOAZ), and the unbeliever choses to continue to observe pagan rituals, and attempt to involve a True believing spouse into those rituals (either directly or indirectly), then The True Believer has no choice but to refuse to participate. Ultimately, this will either force a conversion of the unbeliever, because of his or her love for their spouse OR the unbeliever will get fed up and depart. This is YHVH's Will ! Regardless, the True Believer must never compromise, no matter what the physical consequences. The True Believer must force the issue, and in doing so will bring or even restore HONOR to YHVH and True Faith into the mind of the unbeliever.
Additionally, we, as women, represent The Bride, a very essential part of a marriage contract, that we willingly make with Elohim (Yahweh), and our roles within a fellowship are LIKE (parallel to) those in a marriage, and require the same love and attention as a marriage; and the same amount of Nurturing that a mother gives to her children.
As "The Bride," women, also, represent the "Congregation of True Believers" under Messiah.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own (believing) husbands, as unto the Lord (Yahweh's Proxy).
23 For the (believing) husband is the head of the (believing) wife, even as Messiah is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Messiah, so let the (believing) wives be to their own (believing) husbands in everything.
This passage is referring to your state of humility in a marriage, in that you are to be a humble servant to your (believing or Spiritually Respectful) husband, just as you would be to Elohim (Yahweh), UNLESS he asks you to do something that is against Yahweh's Commandments, in which case you are "Spiritually Required" to deny his request. This is the same concept as denying a request from a government agency OR breaking a law in order to keep Elohim Yahweh's Commandments and Statutes; If for instance there was a law that required all employees in the United States to work on "The Sabbath."
Therefore, sisters (and brothers) our Marriage Vows to Yahweh are a form of Obedience through Love to The Commandments of Yahweh, and our Spiritual Marriage to Yahweh takes precedence over our physical marriage to man. Of course, this is not a problem when we are married to a True believer.
Stay true to the Spirit of Righteousness that dwells within you, my sisters, and all will be well.
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